Recently, my boyfriend came home late while I was already in bed. He laid down next to me and started touching me. I wasn’t in the mood for sex and pushed him away. He kept insisting and penetrated me. My confidence has been affected. When I speak to him about this, he laughs it off.
For weeks we chatted before we saw each other in real life. Our date went well until I was at his house. I didn't want to have sex. He ignored all my signals.
Sexual violence is any form of unwanted sexual contact. It can be online or offline. Sexual violence can be physical, online or with words. Sexual violence also occurs within a marriage or relationship. Sexual violence can be a one-time event or carry on for years.
Sexually transgressive behaviour is sexual behaviour without consent. If you’re very drunk, you cannot give your full consent even though you may say "yes."
Sexually transgressive behaviour doesn’t happen voluntarily. If you feel threatened or there is a reward or punishment attached, you’re not having sex by choice.
If people are not "equal" to each other, this is also transgressive. For example, if there’s a big age difference. Or if the other person has power or influence over you. For example, if a teacher has sex with a student.
I went out with friends and met a girl at a pub. We talked all evening. She offered to stay the night at her place. I was drunk and didn't feel like cycling home. When we were in her bedroom, she wanted sex. She started groping me and doing things I didn't feel like doing at all. I didn’t say ‘no’ and didn’t defend myself. Still, I feel abused.
Both men and women experience sexual violence. Children, adults and elderly people can all be victims or perpetrators.
Both men and women commit sexual violence. In most cases, the perpetrator is someone known to the victim such as a partner, friend or family member.
I have a physical disability. A companion supports me. She sometimes takes me to the bedroom to play 'doctor'. I really don't like it. Nobody knows this. I don't dare talk about it.
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